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Tessa Thompson Opens Up About Her Sexuality And Her Relationship With Janelle Monáe

Tessa Thompson says she's dated men and women before.

While talking to PORTEREdit, Thompson says she’s not only with dating men or women, but that she thanks her family for that fact.

"I’m attracted to men and also to women. If I bring a woman home, [or] a man, we don’t even have to have the discussion.”

Specifically, the actor shared that her open and accepting family is part of the reason for that.

"I can take things for granted because of my family – it’s so free and you can be anything that you want to be,’ she said

In addition, Thompson spoke on her close relationship with singer Janelle Monáe. Thompson starred as several of Monáe’s music videos including Make Me Feel, Pynk, and all throughout Monáe’s visual album Dirty Computer.

Thompson says she understands where people are coming from with their curiosity around the subject but that the two also want to keep some of their relationship private.

“We love each other deeply,’ she added. ‘We’re so close, we vibrate on the same frequency.”

“That was something I was conscientious of in terms of this declaration around Janelle and myself,” Thompson said.

“But so many people don’t. So, do I have a responsibility to talk about that? Do I have a responsibility to say in a public space that this is my person?”

“It’s tricky, because Janelle and I are just really private people and we’re both trying to navigate how you reconcile wanting to have that privacy and space, and also wanting to use your platform and influence,” she said.

Its also important to add that Thompson plays the bisexual superhero Valkryie in the Marvel Cinematic Universe.

Although her character is currently M.I.A. after the Avengers: Infinity War, recent comments from Marvel President of Production Kevin Feige have us thinking her character will be back for more in upcoming films.

Did Jason Mraz Just Come Out?

For Pride Month, Billboard asked several artists and other figures in pop culture to write “love letters” to the LGBTQ+ community.

Here’s one by “I’m Yours” singer-songwriter Jason Mraz:

   


                        

Dear You,

Thank You.

You have inspired me.
Re-wired me.
You showed me what strength is.
You demonstrated courage over and over again.
You risked so much for love.
You never compromised your expression
Even when
Your rights and freedoms were being compromised.
You stood up for me.
You stood up for the world.
And now the world is better because of you.
We still have a long way to go
But know
I am bi your side.
All ways.

Jason Mraz


It’s a lovely, touching poem… and those last lines have some of us wondering—did Jason Mraz just come out? Is Jason Mraz bi?

In 2005, the musician told now-defunct Genre:

"I have a bisexually open mind, but I have never been in a sexual relationship with a man. If the right one came along, then sure." 

Now 40, Mraz married a woman, Christina Carano, in 2015. He was previously engaged [to a woman] in 2010 for about six months before the two called it quits.

Mraz has won two Grammys and sold seven million albums. Last fall, he made his Broadway debut in the hit musical Waitress, starring in a 10-week run.

Billboardhttps://www.billboard.com/articles/news/pride/8460900/jason-mraz-gay-pride-love-letter-lgbt

h/t: https://www.eonline.com/au/news/944186/jason-mraz-pens-love-poem-to-lgbtq-community-i-am-bi-your-side

A Virginia Grandmother Goes Viral After Ironing Her Grandchild's Bisexual Pride Flag

A Virginia grandmother went viral after her granddaughter shared the image of a loving gesture.

This past weekend, a woman named Lexie tweeted out a picture of her grandmother ironing her bisexual pride flag before she headed out to Washington, D.C.’s Pride.

In the tweet, which now has 34,300 comments, 239,000 likes, and 33,000 retweets, she wrote:

“I got up this morning to get ready for #DCPride. My grandma walked into my room, looked at my bi flag, and said, ‘Oh, this needs to be pressed out!’ Such a simple gesture, but it holds so much love and meaning for me.”

After she noticed that the original tweet was going viral, she sent out a second tweet explaining that she once was afraid to come out to her grandmother. That makes this gesture all the more meaningful.

Then finally, she tweeted out a third time to share a selfie with her grandmother while saying, “here’s another picture of my grandma because I want the world to see how beautiful she is! Show her some love! Happy pride y’all.”

h/t: NewNowNext

Go Behind-The-Scenes In Upcoming Documentary "Whitney"

Miramax and Roadside Attractions shares a “first-look” at some of the rare footage included in the upcoming documentary Whitney, which uses never-before-seen archival video, demo recordings, interviews and rare performances to unravel the mystery behind “The Voice.”

Breaking records by every metric in the entertainment world, Whitney Houston’s career soared as she sold over 200 million albums worldwide, starred in blockbuster movies and became the only artist to have 7 consecutive #1 singles.

But along the way, cracks in the perfect veneer began to appear in the form of erratic behavior and behind-the-scenes scandals. Eventually, the unknowable pressures of superstardom were too much for Houston as she died at the young age of 48 in a Beverly Hills hotel suite on February 11, 2012.

The new documentary Whitney - which has the blessing of the Houston family - takes an intimate, unflinching look at the pop superstar and her family going beyond the tabloid headlines to shed new light on the amazing, spellbinding trajectory of Houston’s life.

An earlier, unauthorized documentary - Whitney: Can I Be Me - was roundly denounced by Houston's family in that it touched on Whitney's drug use and bisexuality. Houston’s mother Cissy Houston told Oprah in a 2013 interview she would “absolutely” have been disappointed if her daughter had come out to her as gay.

Check out rare rehearsal footage from the documentary of Houston in rehearsal as she readied for an awards show performance.

Whitney will premiere at the Cannes Film Festival in May and land in theaters July 6.

 

 

A British Man Says His Pain Relief Medicine Turned Him Gay

Earlier this week, a British man made headlines for claiming that his medicine made him gay.

23-year-old Scott Purdy spoke to Daily Mail to say that his sexual orientation changed after taking Lyrica/Pregabalin. Purdy was taking the pain relief medicine after an accident, and then “four or five days later” he says he was no longer attracted to the opposite sex (which was awkward for his girlfriend).

“I had never been interested in men. When I was younger I was a little bit curious, but a couple of weeks after I started taking it I turned around and said I didn’t find her physically attractive anymore. “

“She knew I was taking Pregabalin.”

“I said to her, ‘I don’t really know what’s happening to me and I told her I like men and I just can’t be with you.’”

“She was relatively understanding, as understanding as you could possibly be.”

Due to the fact that Lyrica, or known professionally as Pregabalin, is also used to help with anxiety, our guess would be that the loss of anxiety helped Purdy come to terms with his bicurious sexuality. And, that’s exactly what experts, and Purdy’s father, believe.

After the news spread around online, Purdy appeared on ITV’s This Morning where an NHS professional, presenter, and author, named Dr. Ranj Singh, told him that “these feelings were probably already there.”

As the doctor added, “this has allowed you and given you permission to be who you are.”

On top of that, Purdy’s 57-year-old father, Nigel Purdy, told MailOnline that his son was always into men.

“I know my son and we have always just assumed he was bisexual; as it turns out he is gay. It’s just the way he was, even when he was younger,” claimed Nigel.

“It was his general mannerisms. A parent knows their child. I don’t know why he has waited to come out with all this. His whole life has been a lie.

“He has told me in the past that he admitted that he started experimenting with a lad when he was younger.”

Scott’s 56-year-old Stepmother Gail, also added that she’s known about his sexuality for years, “We’ve asked him for years if he likes men and he could have just admitted it to us.”

That said, Scott Purdy is adamant that this shift in his sexuality is totally based on the drug. In fact, he even brings up on This Morning the fact that he took pregabalin once before as a teenager going through cancer.

“They prescribed them for me after I had cancer to help me sleep.

“I have been on them for quite some while and I’m still straight.

“I saw that doctor on This Morning yesterday; how he managed to keep a straight face I don’t know.”

For now, Purdy insists that the medicine is what’s keeping him gay, and says that he’s happy that way.

Did Disney Remove A Bisexual Character From Mulan?

Did Disney Remove A Bisexual Character From Mulan?


The LGBTQ Community Continues To Get The Shaft!

It wasn't long ago when Disney was sticking up for the LGBTQ community by dismissing Malaysia for trying to edit out a *gay* moment from the live action Beauty and the Beast film. Low key, for as long as I can recall, Disney has been pretty progressive in their dedication towards their LGBTQ brothers and sisters. Like, Disney does have a Gay Days, so...who wouldn't believe they are so for us, you know?! Well, it turns out Disney is kind of being a brat surrounding their 2020 live action Mulan film...by removing a bisexual character!


According to Next Shark, a Twitter user is claiming original Mulan character, Li Shang - a fellow solider who crushes on Mulan when he believes she is a man - will not be in the live action film. Instead, his doppelganger will be a Commander who is Mulan's mentor. Hmm, that is just all too familiar, right? 


This very suspect rumor comes on the tail of Disney announcing their live action Mulan isn't going to be much like the original animated film. This includes the dismissal of any original songs - see ya later Christina Aguilera - and an entirely different plot. Now, a lot may go into this especially the would-be heavy-Game of Thrones style action sequences which could go over budget, yet I cannot help but wonder...is the real reason we're not seeing the original Mulan story because of the homoerotic themes? I mean, she did have a man falling in love with her...when he believed she was a man. While animated versions are deemed harmless by the society, I could imagine a lot of people being in an uproar of the whole idea of it. For what it's worth, we get an introduction to new characters such as a villainous Witch and Mulan's sister, so perhaps we have to let go of nostalgia and hope for an incredible film.

Bisexual Man Claims Dating Men Is Better Than Women!

Bisexual Man Claims Dating Men Is Easier!


Is This The Ultimate Battle Of The Sexes?

#FIGHT! Let’s speak of dating horror stories for a moment: Upon my arrival in Los Angeles, I had the cutest, slinkiest shorts which made my rear look phenomenal…then, I get into my date’s car. Immediately, he groans: He’d made a reservation at a fancy restaurant where shorts on men weren’t acceptable. He made a fuss about canceling and we went to some hotel restaurant in lieu, but that’s really all on him for not mentioning anything. If you’re going to a 5-star restaurant; don’t let that be a surprise for a first date!


Now, imagine factoring all of these into heterosexual dating. I’m friends with arguably more women than men: I’ve seen my girlfriends get things handed to them – like, even a gift upon their arrival at a restaurant. They get a reward just for making attendance! I don’t think I’ve ever gotten flowers or anything upon simply showing up. Does this make heterosexual men more romantic – or are they trying to make up for something? Pressure by society? What is it?


Yes, it’s a ton of fun to go out on dates with various people you’ve met. It’s even more fun imagining your would-be relationship, but let’s be honest: Same-sex dating can be complete hell! There’s always the back-and-forth of who will pay, a comfortable with public display of affection, what activity to do, and apparently, even what to wear! While the straights can complain all they want, as can the LGBTQ community, I firmly believe gay people have it a little easier when it comes to dating. There isn’t necessarily a need to showboat or be dramatic. We save the drama for flash mob marriage proposals.


According to The Daily Mail, one 32-year-old male, bisexual New Yorker admits he prefers dating men over women, because it’s “easier and cheaper”. The unnamed man goes on to tell while he does enjoy his dates with men, he feels the need to work out and keep up his appearance more since the gay community is shallow. Also, he’s found himself more likely to be ghosted – you know, someone who disappears without a reason – by men. He likens to the men to not being able to commit to relationships for why he has yet to have something serious. Well…I’m sure a lot of us can agree!


Daily Mail’s article was inspired by the bisexual man’s daily diary which was released on The Cut. The unidentified man seems to be into men more than women in general, but definitely closeted to his coworkers and family. He seems highly motivated by sex, which seems to be much easier to get in the LGBTQ community. I think the man wants to get off more than he wants to fall in love, or even date.


Honestly, dating – even being a narcissistic, bisexual man – is complicated in general. Relationships equalizes all communities the same as nature. We’re all united by hookups, bad dates, flings, and long term relationships. There is no winning gender when it comes to dating. We’re all pretty much wandering around wet and googly eyed.


Do you believe dating men is easier than women?


This post is the opinion of this contributing writer to Instinct Magazine. Opinion pieces do not always reflect the stance of the magazine or the other contributing writers. 

Did Bisexual Health Awareness Month Make Us Examine Our Own Health And Our Relationship With Our Doctor?

I will admit, I didn't know March was Bisexual Health Awareness Month.  It came and went and I juts continued with my cis gay life. Do I shrug my shoulders and say, oh well, there seems to be a day or a month dedicated for anything and everything now, and move on? 

We honestly need to stop treating the Bisexual+ community as the lower case confused child of the rainbow family. Why does it seem that the most prevalent comments about the bisexual community are that they just want it all, they are confused, and they just need to pick a side. 

Enough is enough with that mentality.  Haven't we as Ls and Gs an Ts heard too many comments just like those?  As a gay man, how many times have you been asked if you've ever had sex with a woman and if the answer is no, they seem totally shocked that you never tried it and move forward with saying you should?

But what if some of these off the wall, degrading, confusing questions came from your doctor?

GLAAD.org recently posted a piece called "Six Things Bisexual+ People Are Tired Of Hearing From Their Doctors."

1) “Wow, being bisexual must make dating so easy, you’ve got all the fish in the sea.”

2) “Are you sure there is no way you could be pregnant?”

3) “You don’t need STD/STI testing because you’re in a same-sex relationship, right?” or “I think we should run some STD/STI tests, just in case.”

4) “When was the last time you had sex? I mean… real sex?”

5) “So you’ve been in a relationship for a while now. You’re not bisexual anymore? Finally picked a side?”

6) “Don’t worry, I experimented some back in college too, I know how it is”

For more elaboration on these comments, head over to GLAAD.org where Micah Prussack puts it all in context.

So imagine hearing these comments from a professional that is there to help you protect your health.  Knowing these questions and the attitude toward Bisexuals is a negative, degrading one, do bisexuals even "come out" to their doctors?  Maybe you have heard these questions from your own doctor?

The Human Rights Campaign marked Bisexual Health Awareness Month by highlighting the startling health disparities facing the bisexual community:

  • HRC’s 2017 Youth Survey conducted with the University of Connecticut is not yet published, but preliminary insights reveal that bisexual youth are more likely to avoid exercise, smoke cigarettes, and more frequently feel irritable and depressed than their lesbian and gay peers. Additionally, bisexual youth were less likely to disclose their sexual orientation to their doctors and health care providers.
     
  • HRC’s 2015 report Health Disparities Among Bisexual People found that when compared to their heterosexual, lesbian and gay peers, bisexual adults reported double the rate of depression and were far more likely to engage in self-harming behaviors.
     
  • HRC’s 2014 report Supporting and Caring for our Bisexual Youth found that bisexual, queer and pansexual youth were less likely than their lesbian and gay peers to report feeling happy, and more likely to experience being excluded and harassed.
     
  • In partnership with BRC, BiNetUSA and the Bisexual Organizing Project, HRC Foundation’s issue brief, Health Disparities Among Bisexual People, highlighted these disparities, which include higher rates of cancer, heart disease and obesity, and higher rates of HPV and other sexual health issues, likely stemming from a lack of access to preventative care and not being out to medical providers.
     
  • The Williams Institute also found that bisexual people are far less likely than their gay and lesbian counterparts to disclose their sexual orientation to their medical providers, leaving them at risk of failing to have access to a full range of medically-necessary care.

Are we asking doctors to be verse in all the challenges the LGBTQ+ community may face.  Well, actually, yes.

We're asking doctors to do the best they can, and if they are at their limit of knowledge, refer us to someone that can do more, that can assist more. But we are asking for a level playing field and an open minded playing field.

Once again, I didn't know March was Bisexual Health Awareness Month, but it does raise a question, a personal one for me. Am I afraid to find a doctor that doesn't respect or know how to deal with me being a gay man?

I moved to Florida over 4 years ago and I have not been to a doctor yet.  Eye and teeth, yes, those are taken care of, but an overall health doctor/physician?  No. I have not taken the step to do the research to see what doctor may be accepting of me being a man and liking men.  If this is such an issue for me, I cannot imagine what it is like for a bisexual person, a transgender person, or any other member of our alphabet, besides the more "accepted L and G" members.

Bisexual Health Awareness Month can affect us all, even if we aren't a B.


Have you been open with your doctor about your LGBTQ+ ness?

How did you go about selecting a doctor?

Or did you keep your family doctor and just "come out" to them?

Have you left a doctor because s/he could not handle, understand, or help you because of your sexuality?

h/t: GLAAD.org, The Human Rights Campaign

 

Does Harry Styles No Longer Go in Only ONE Direction?

Harry Styles is driving everyone insane after his last concert in Paris where he belted out his song Medicine, which never made it onto his debut self-titled album. Why are they going nuts? Because the song suggests that the singer is bisexual with its racy lyrics.

Here's the first verse:

Here to take my medicine, take my medicine
Treat you like a gentleman
Treat you like a gentleman
Give me that adrenaline, that adrenaline
Think I’m gonna stick with you
Here to take my medicine, take my medicine
Rest it on your fingertips
Up to your mouth, feeling it out
Feeling it out

Rumors of the One Directioner have circulated for years so could this be an open dialogue that Styles, indeed, goes in MULTIPLE directions?

And looks like Troye Sivan is waiting for that studio recording of this song:

The second verse to Medicine goes like this:

Tingle running through my blood, fingers to my toes
Tingle running through my bones
The boys and the girls are here
I mess 'round a bit
And I'm okay with it

The boys and girls are here
I'm messing 'round with them
And I'm okay with it

Hmmmm. Do you hear the high-pitched screams of all the fan boys?

Styles is known for waving the pride flag during concerts like so:

And in the past, he has admitted to not wanting to ‘label’ himself. But is this his subtle way of doing so? He has everyone sick with his teasing and we need that medicine.

Check out the video from his most recent concert: